3 Powerful Ways to Get Moving When You Feel Stuck in Life

“One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching.” ~Unknown

I realized I’m going to die soon.

Not, you know, imminently. But soon. Even sixty is soon. Seventy, eighty, ninety, still soon. And I’ll be lucky if I get that old.

I’m going to die.

What’s gotten into me? Maybe it’s the Robin Williams story. That would make sense. A loss that’s shocking really resets your perspective.

Life is fleeting, it’s brief. Even if it’s what we’d consider a long life, it’s short.

This was a thought of mine in the shower today.

I think it jolted me into feeling a little less uptight. A little less scared.

The real scary thing is the big, black unknown. That vast mystery of whatever comes next. Whatever happens after life is snuffed out.

And it will be snuffed out. In the grand scheme (even medium scheme) of history, pretty relatively quickly.

That’s morbid, you may think. But I felt a little better today when I had this thought.

After a good long stretch of isolating myself and digging further into a rut, I felt better about things I’ve been going through. Like cyclical insecure thoughts I’d been having. Apprehension, anger, regret, confusion. Fear. Anxiety.

I feel good today. Because in the face of life ending too soon, and not knowing what comes next, I realize that I know what can come now. I can put together what I want. I can face things boldly.

Compared to the uncertainty of whatever is in the afterlife, whatever my blind date thinks of me tomorrow is pretty manageable by comparison. While I’m here, I better embrace life a little.

I imagine that future me will look back on present me very much the way present me looks back on younger me.

I shake my head sometimes at younger me for her insecurities and hesitation and fear. I want to tell her it’s all going to go by so fast—enjoy it now.

Enjoy it now.

Right now is the time when future me may look back and wonder what on earth I was so worried about. I’m only thirty-one. Thirty-one! Forty-one year-old me would love to be thirty-one!

And eighty-one-year-old me would really wish she was thirty-one.

My god. I’m so lucky to be thirty-one.

What am I doing wasting it on insecurity? Why do I freeze and gravitate toward inaction sometimes?

Every moment that I’m unsure, worried, fretting, concerned about how I’m doing, or wondering if I’ve made the right choices, done the best I can, of if I should worry about what someone thinks, is a waste of precious time. It’s like fourteen-year-old me thinking she was fat. She wasn’t.

Are you hesitant about a fork in the road? Feeling anxious about your options (or lack thereof)? Feel old? Regret something? I can’t tell you what will fix it, but I can share three things that have always given me motivation to really move forward and live.

Walk through a graveyard.

It seems creepy. It isn’t. A cemetery has a fantastic way of reminding you to live your life. Fear of whatever choices you have ahead, or any paralysis of action you may be experiencing, will melt in the presence of beautifully landscaped permanent resting places.

Take a walk around your nearest or prettiest cemetery this weekend and try to quiet your mind. For me, this exercise always results in a great dose of perspective on life. Namely, that it ends. So any choice of action, regardless of how it turns out, is a gift.

Imagine young you.

Remember the school dance you were too scared to go to? Or the crossroads between starting your career or traveling after graduation? How about the girl you never asked out, or the boy you never told off for hurting you?

Young you was trepidatious about a few things—occasions you wouldn’t hesitate to rise to now. So, too, would older you appreciate you finding the courage to drop the worries that are holding you both back today.

Imagine the worst that can happen.

Got a scary thing you want to do? Think of the worst that could happen, and weigh it against how much you’d regret not trying. Or if you’re not sure what to do at all, weigh the consequences of trying something versus doing nothing.

Do something. Embrace the fact that you’re living. Failure, success—both are part of a full life. Living with complacency isn’t living at all.

My favorite question to ask people is what they’d be most upset about if the Grim Reaper showed up and said they’ve got five minutes.

Why wait?

Get to it.

From: Tiny Buddha

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Sesame Street “Crack Master” Short from Episode 818 (1975)

“Cracks” (or “Crack Master”) is one of the most sought-out of “Sesame Street” shorts, and its notoriety became almost legendary over the years.  The tale of a youngster who images the cracks in his walls are creatures is still pretty great (especially if you can watch it unironically, though that may be tough with those who giggle at the thought of “crack” being every fifth word), and you can read about the history of this oddity here, and you can just watch it below:

Via Watch this Thing

Meditate: Why, How & Cuz

Meditation is too often overlooked as a valuable form of self-improvement.  If you’ve ever tried it, then you know how helpful it can be to the mind, body and spirit.  If you haven’t tried it, then it is entirely possible you are carrying around way too much stress in your life that could eventually cause long term physical damage.  The threat of stress is real, and taking some time to clear your thoughts and focus on peacefulness is highly recommended, not just for your own private thoughts, but also for how you feel physically.  But how do you meditate effectively, and why is it important to your continued development as a human being?

How to Meditate

The first thing you need to do when you get ready for meditation is find a private place, where you can de-stress and focus on anything but the demands of your day.  Meditation requires a place of focus, but not necessarily silence.  Some people prefer to play music or sounds of nature while they meditate.  The key is finding what works with your personality.  What relaxes you?   Once you find the answer to that question, your thoughts will then become free enough to roam in a constructive and coherent manner.  You want to build absolute and complete awareness both within and outside of yourself, and if the environment isn’t right, then that won’t be possible.

Once the environment is established, it’s time for you to run back through the events and the thoughts of what happened during your day.  You need to bundle them all together as if boxing up Christmas decorations.  Once you get them into the right container within your mind, it’s time to put them away until the time comes where you may need them again.  It takes a little preparation and training, but gradually you learn to let the big things fall away, and that makes it much easier to de-burden yourself from the rest.  Letting go of the past and the present and opening your thoughts to an absolute state of awareness is essential in the meditation process.  More than essential, it is your actual endgame.

Once you get in to a routine of meditation time, you will become better at it, and your environment will start to take shape into the one that you wish for it to be.  Perfect meditation does not happen overnight, but it does happen with the more routine you make it.  And it is important to make it a routine.  Why?  Because it teaches you that health and wellness – and that means all forms of health, not just physical – are essential for long life and quality of life.  Don’t take the practice for granted.